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Thursday, June 13, 2013

Back in Time Part 3 - My First Break up with a Japanese Girl


Japanese word of the day - doko ni sunde masuka? どこに住んでますか?Where do you live?


Days 1901 - 1907 
Sunday, June 2 - Saturday, June 8, 2013

Day 1901 ( 9 Million with Dimentia )
Sunday, June 2, 2013

Stayed in all day and ate paella for lunch and dinner. Delicious I tell yuh.

It badddd

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9 million in China have dementia




Around 9.2 million people in China had dementia in 2010, compared with almost 3.7 million 20 years earlier, according to a study Friday that throws a spotlight on an emerging health crisis.


In what its authors say is the most detailed study into age-related mental health in China, the paper says prevalence of dementia there is rising far faster than thought and the country is ill-equipped to deal with the problem.

http://www.japantimes.co.jp/news/2013/06/08/world/9-million-in-china-have-dementia/#.Ubht39I3BrM

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Day 1902 ( Back to Kamakura )
Monday, June 3, 2013

Kamakura YMCA

Stayed in for most of the day. Then went to teach a class at the Kamakura YMCA. My name is spreading among the YMCAs so that's a good thing. I kinda like the feel of Kamakura, its like you go back in time. Sorta reminds me a bit of Kyoto but in another way. I prefer the old Kamakura look more than the old Kyoto look.

I taught a lady who is maybe in her late 50s or early 60s. She said she went to one of the high schools that I teach at now. At that time it was an all girls school. After talking with her for 90 mins, I went to my usual Monday class of 3rd graders. There is one girl in the class who is kinda getting on my nerves, along with one of the boys as well. One of the things on my anger management list... Rotten/rude kids.


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Day 1903 (  )
Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Had 2 classes at the high school. Then 2 Business English classes at Komatsu. The students are slowly getting less. One quit recently because he said his job is too difficult to balance with voluntary English lessons.


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Day 1904 ( My First Break up with a Japanese Girl )
Wednesday, June 5, 2013



My back in time part 2 post (My First Japanese Girl friend)
http://davecollyjap.blogspot.jp/2013/04/back-in-time-part-2-my-first-japanese.html

Wasn't as successful in views as my back in time part 1 post ( My first date with a Japanese )
http://davecollyjap.blogspot.jp/2013/03/back-in-time-part-1-my-first-date-with.html

But both had over 300 views.

So here is the third installment in the "Back in time" series. "My First Break up with a Japanese Girl"

Where was I? ...... Yeah I now had a Japanese girlfriend and I was feeling like a boss in town. Happy, fulfilled and grateful for this great opportunity of having a Japanese girlfriend in the middle of nowhere. She was happy with me, and I was happy with her. We went several places together, did several things and we were having the time of our lives. Then..............3 months into this experience of a life time .................... my cousin and best friend died. I went back to Jamaica to attend his funeral and my girlfriend supported me all the way. She even loaned me some money on short notice to go back to the funeral. And she was there everyday when I was crying none stop. I am thankful she was there throughout this ordeal.

Slowly we started getting used to each other and she started getting miserable. Then, her job transferred her to another location about 2 hours away by car. It started to put a strain on our relationship but we still tried. We would only meet on the weekends now. But we spoke every night on the phone for hours and our phone bills were getting high. I think everyone who knew me, knew that this girl was my girlfriend. And many (myself included) wondered how did I manage to win over a girl like this, in the middle of rural/country side/full of old people and rice fields Japan. She spoke some English, she was gorgeous and she was more on the rich side. How? Seriously!

Anyway, I was an idiot. I was getting popular in the country side. Not only because I was the only black dude around, but also because I was on TV...... Everyday.


My name was spreading like wild fire. That happens in the country side of Japan if you are a foreigner though. It doubles if you are black. And it quadruples if you are on TV. So you can imagine. Everything I did, 30,000 people would know. They knew what I bought, they knew the activities I did. They knew EVERYTHING I DID!!! I realized this the hard way.

Yeah so I was getting increasingly popular, and as I said up top.... I'm an idiot. Some other girls caught my eye. And they already knew who I was so no need for introductions. Long and short of this is that, I kind of got involved with another girl while my girlfriend was far away. I was a mess. The other girl found out about my girlfriend and she gave me an ultimatum to leave her (my girlfriend) or get left........ So I asked for an extension on the ultimatum because I was a mess. Why did I even get wrapped up in this triangle thing in the first place? Any way, the other girl eventually left after a whopping 6 months. I never knew this would have had an impact on me. But it was a shocker. I discovered that when she left, that I was actually in love with 2 women. And didn't want to leave any of them. Talk about bringing back the Bible days to present (Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, David, SOLOMON-- Hey my name is a spring of of David you know?) I was devastated when she left. And I think my girlfriend realized that something was wrong. But I couldn't tell her... Hell naaa.... It was tearing me up on the inside. Why did I do this in the first place?

Then shortly after this, my girlfriend was getting more and more angry about everything and nothing. Just angry and complaining none stop. So I asked her if she wanted us to break up. To which she went silent for about a minute. Then I saw tears strolling down her face. She then nodded "yes". I asked her if she was sure. And she repeated "yes". She said that we both knew it was coming to an end. I can't say she was wrong. So on the night of Sunday, January 31, 2010 (after 1 year, 2 months and 12 days of being together) I had my first breakup (or was it second?) with a Japanese girl. This was actually 9 days after the first one left. Talk about break up combo.

I was back to square one.... no, square zero. It felt worse than when I just came to Japan after breaking up with my then Jamaican girlfriend. Worse because I had no support system whatsoever. I almost depended entirely on my Japanese girlfriend for everything. Translation, fun, conversations... you name it. Now I had no one. It felt like hell. And my heart ached every single day. I even felt like I was losing it at times. I cried my heart out everyday for almost 2 weeks. This was how terrible I felt about everything. I couldn't eat properly, I couldn't and didn't want to sleep. I had nightmares constantly. I prayed every single night, asking God that if He was real, He should take this situation away from me..... I've never felt like that in my entire life.

It was also terrible because everyone in the small town knew what was going on. They knew about me messing around with the other girl and about my break up. One particular foreign teacher from the US, who doesn't like me very much, still spreads my name around to new comers in the area. I was surprised when a Jamaican female who started teaching in that area recently, told me that she heard about me, and what took place .... This dude is on a serious mission of slandering me man. Mr. hater himself. But it only encourages me to do better and rise higher. Not calling him a liar, just that he chooses only the bad stories about me to tell everyone.

It took me almost a year to fully 100% get over this/these breakup(s). But it was this situation, combined with the death of my cousin, that allowed me to publish my first book. I had to get out of that depressing phase.

Yeah so that was how it ended. Pretty messed up. And I lost some weight... look

Me after a traumatic break up in 2010



But I recovered well and started doing darts and several other activities in late 2010.....

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Day 1905 ( New Private Student )
Thursday, June 6, 2013

I gained myself a new student recently, from an internet site. She saw my profile and somehow chose me... This is after like 2 years of not hearing anything from this website. Today was an introduction lesson so it was free of charge. If she likes it, we will continue. She is a marketing professional and has been running her own company for 20 years now... wow... She has a company that sells baby clothes. We spoke for about 1 hour and she decided to continue next week.

Later in the evening, I went for dinner in Tokyo, at the Jamaican restaurant in Shibuya. good Wood Terrace.



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Day 1906 Bolt Loses to Gatlin / Usain Bolt Gives Tennis Superstar Rafael Nadal Trophy )
Friday, June 7, 2013

I see why they pay us less for teaching in high school. We hardly do anything. At times I'm there for the entire day doing absolutely nothing. With elementary school, you better know that you will be working your butt off. Today after teaching 1 class at my main high school, I wasted my time going to the YMCA for a class. They asked me last week to teach 3 fifth grade girls for 90 mins. None of them showed up... And my boss told me nothing. I claimed money for both classes though because I was there waiting.

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Bolt beaten by Gatlin




http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TfwTTY7fG6U

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Usain Bolt watches French Open final, presents Rafael Nadal with trophy





Fresh off a surprise defeat to Justin Gatlin at the Golden Gala meet in Rome last week, six-time Olympic gold medalist Usain Bolt was in Paris for the French Open on Sunday to present the Coupe des Mousquetaires to Rafael Nadal, who defeated David Ferrer 6-3, 6-2, 6-3 in a rain-addled final. Bolt took in the match next to French Federation president Jean Gachassin and watched as the most dominant man on clay the sport has ever seen won his eighth title.

Nadal was asked before the match about Bolt, and not surprisingly, there was a lot of athlete-on-athlete love. “Everybody know that he’s amazing what he did,” Nadal said. “He’s one of the great sportsman of the history. I hope to be there to receive the trophy. I gonna try. If not, I gonna say hello to him.”

http://tennis.si.com/2013/06/09/usain-bolt-french-open-trophy-rafael-nadal/


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Day 1907 ( Vinegar cures Cancer )
Saturday, June 8, 2013

Did 3 classes at the YMCA today. One class (the worst of the 3) was an open class where parents came to visit. The kids were misbehaving for a while until their parents came. But 2 of them still misbehaved even in the presence of their parents!!! Unbelievable kids I tell you.

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Vinegar cancer test saves lives, India study finds

A simple vinegar test slashed cervical cancer death rates by one-third in a remarkable study of 150,000 women in the slums of India, where the disease is the top cancer killer of women.

Doctors reported the results Sunday at a cancer conference in Chicago. Experts called the outcome “amazing” and said this quick, cheap test could save tens of thousands of lives each year in developing countries by spotting early signs of cancer, allowing treatment before it’s too late.

Usha Devi, one of the women in the study, says it saved her life.
“Many women refused to get screened. Some of them died of cancer later,” Devi said. “Now I feel everyone should get tested. I got my life back because of these tests.”

http://www.japantimes.co.jp/news/2013/06/05/asia-pacific/vinegar-cancer-test-saves-lives-india-study-finds/#.UbmRptI3BrN

2 comments:

Arniel Brown said...

Dave that breakup story happened to me too in Okayama, and had hater Lucas all over me. Good that you got out of it.

davay colly said...

Thanks for the shout Arniel. Yeah I remember that dude. I didn't really like him either.