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Tuesday, September 23, 2014

News in Japan - ( Japanese Middle Aged Men Behaving Inappropriately With Daughter in Laws ) / Some Japanese women case sexual assault on themselves

Some Japanese daughter in laws do some very interesting things.

Check out this article from Kuchikomi of Japan Today.



Tensions surface between middle-aged men, daughters-in law




" The generation gap is eternal, but no two eras experience it quite the same way. How many ways can the old and young grate on each other? People now approaching old age have lived through an unusual number of possibilities. Politics, music, technology, sex, and economics have all conspired in recent decades to set the generations at odds.
“Generation gap” usually suggests parents and children, but Shukan Post (Sept 5) tries a different approach, focusing on fathers-in-law and daughters-in-law.
The wife of a man’s son, mother of his grandchildren or grandchildren-to-be, deserves a special place in his heart and often wins it – but “special” doesn’t always mean good.
“My eldest son brought his new bride home for Obon,” recalls a 62-year-old company employee, referring to the annual mid-August occasion for family reunions. “Maybe because I never had a daughter, I felt a little awkward.”
“A little” soon became a lot. “Not that she wasn’t a nice person – on the contrary – but… well, the way she dressed – was it really suitable? See-through T-shirt, no bra? You don’t want to stare, and yet ... does my son really not mind?” The father-in-law didn’t say anything, but “it embarrassed me to be thinking what I was thinking!”
A 64-year-old self-employed man describes coming home one evening and entering his living room, only to suddenly stop short – there was his visiting daughter-in-law, breastfeeding her little boy. Well, so what? “She was not in the least embarrassed – she smiled down at the infant and said, ‘Look, grandpa’s home!’ For some reason I felt like apologizing, but thinking that would be silly, I just said, ‘Drink up, little man, and grow big and strong!’” Which was surely the best way to handle the situation.
This from a 65-year-old accountant hosting his visiting son and daughter-in-law: “My son was out late at a class reunion. I got up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom and noticed their light on, which seemed odd. She must have fallen asleep with it on.”
Approaching to turn it off, he saw his daughter-in-law, wide awake, so thoroughly absorbed in a pornoraphic video that she didn’t even notice him. He beat a hasty retreat and nothing was ever said – “but I can’t get it out of my mind, I can’t feel the way I used to about her.”
One last anecdote, narrated by a 63-year-old company president. “She came to my office one day” – his 39-year-old daughter-in-law – “to talk to me about my son’s infidelities.” She was distraught. Unable to contain her emotions, she burst into tears, into uncontrollable sobs. “I couldn’t just stand there and let the woman weep. I took her in my arms, comforted her, kissed her, she clung more tightly to me…” Nothing further happened on that occasion, but the die was cast: “In secret from my wife and my son, we now meet at a love hotel once a month."

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Women who attract 'chikan,' and women who don’t: An illustrated guide


by Frank Wrigley - Japan Today

"“Chikan”—men who grope women in public in Japan. Also refers to the act itself.
An illustrator who posted a cartoon claiming to show the difference between those who easily attract sexual harassment or assault and those who don’t has, as you might expect, sparked a heated debate in online and offline communities. Critics assert that focusing on a woman’s appearance and clothing amount to blaming the victim, not the attacker. The artist on the other hand says the work is based on statistical evidence. 
Japan’s problem with “chikan” is widespread. In surveys conducted by train companies, as many as 70% of young women say they have been groped, mostly on commuter trains. Some train lines have introduced women-only cars at busy times to counteract this, and there are poster campaigns in stations proclaiming, “Chikan is a crime” and “Beware of chikan“. The positioning of these two statements is worthy of attention. The first warns men not to commit crime. The second statement warns people (usually women, although men and children are victims too) not to become a target of crime.
So how does the illustration that’s doing the rounds on Twitter fit into this?
Let’s take a look at the artist’s description of the image first: “The difference between people who attract ‘chikan’ easily and people who don’t. According to statistics, this is how it is”, writes the artist, who goes by Twitter username @Nakashima273.
Now, look at the picture at left and see what you think.
From left to right, the scale shows “easy targets” to “difficult targets”.
Those most at risk from “chikan,” the notes below the image tell us, are school students in uniform, and meek-looking women in demure clothing. Women who wear loud clothing, or who look tall or powerful, are less likely to be attacked.
The suggestion that a woman in modest clothing is more likely to be groped in public than someone who is “provocatively” dressed might fly in the face of what many people believe – that showing your body, like the woman on the far right is, means a woman is somehow “asking for it”.
In a follow-up tweet, the artist linked to a Japanese blog post which states: “Suspects in sex crime cases were asked why they chose that person [to attack]. Fewer than 5% said they targeted someone because they were wearing provocative clothing. In rape cases, the most common reason given was ‘they seemed like they wouldn’t report it to the police’ (45%). In indecent assault cases, the most common reason was ‘they seemed meek; I didn’t think they’d be able to stop me’ (48%).”
“Ayako Uchiyama, who led the research, said ‘It’s often thought that [women] who wear provocative clothing will be targets [for sex crimes], but that’s not the case.’”
Although these particular statistics seem to have been reblogged for many years (e.g. here and here), the source link is always the same one, which is now dead. With its “meek women are easy targets” heading, the reblogged paragraphs could be Internet scaremongering. It’s hard to tell.
But the debate Nakashima’s image has merited is real enough. Many Japanese netizens were appalled at the age of the kids in the picture.
“I can’t believe even elementary school students get attacked by ‘chikan.’ What is the world coming to.”
“Elementary school students are the easiest target?! That’s a different crime altogether, isn’t it?”
Others paid attention to the woman on the far right.
“Of course no one’s going to hassle a girl that looks as terrifying as that.”
“Lady Gaga!”
“Sunglasses. Sunglasses are the best countermeasure.”
More commenters shared their own experiences.
“When I started high school, I stopped being a target for ‘chikan.’ I started wearing makeup and the attention stopped completely.”
“Funny how I know loads of women who say they’ve been groped on the train, but never met a man who says he’s molested anyone.”
The illustrator is protesting against the notion that women who wear revealing clothing are more likely to be assaulted – or somehow to blame if they are attacked. But some commenters disagreed with the way the artist made this point.
“Talking about people who attract ‘chikan’ easily is looking at it the wrong way. It’s like saying the victim is in the wrong.”
Another commenter added, “‘Chikan’ aren’t just a threat to women, they’re a menace to society as a whole”.
This “we’re all in this together” mentality is echoed in another kind of anti-“chikan” poster you can see in train stations in Japan now. In this short manga-style story, a young woman yells “Chikan!”  Two other passengers are seen reacting: “Did she say ‘chikan?’” “That’s a crime!” A member of the train crew asks, “What happened?” as he comes to help. The text underneath encourages people who see sexual harassment or assault happening to speak out: “With everyone’s courage and voice, we can eliminate ‘chikan.’”"
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More than half of Chinese see war as inevitable, with Japan
Japan Today

"More than half of Chinese people think their country could go to war with Japan in the future, a new poll revealed Wednesday, after two years of intense diplomatic squabbles.
A survey conducted in both nations found that 53.4% of Chinese envisage a future conflict, with more than a fifth of those saying it would happen “within a few years”, while 29% of Japanese view military confrontation as a possibility.
The findings come ahead of the second anniversary Thursday of Japan’s nationalisation of disputed islands in the East China Sea that have formed the focus of tensions between the Asian giants.
Underlining the lingering row over the Tokyo-controlled Senkaku Islands, four Chinese coast guard vessels sailed into their territorial waters on Wednesday morning.
China regards them as its territory and calls them the Diaoyu Islands.
The survey was conducted by Japanese non-governmental organisation the Genron NPO and the China Daily, a Chinese state-run newspaper, in July and August.
It questioned 1,000 Japanese aged 18 or older and 1,539 Chinese of the same age range in five cities: Beijing, Shanghai, Chengdu, Shenyang and Xian.
In the annual opinion poll which started in 2005, 93% of Japanese respondents said their impression of China was “unfavorable,” worsening from 90.1% last year and the highest level since the survey began.
The percentage of Chinese who have an unfavorable impression of Japan stood at 86.8 percent, an improvement on 92.8% last year.
“The most common reason for the unfavorable impression of China among the Japanese public was ‘China’s actions are incompatible with international rules’ at 55.1%,” Genron NPO and the China Daily said in a joint statement.
That was closely followed by “China’s actions to secure resources, energy and food look selfish” at 52.8%.
The third most commonly-given reason was “criticism of Japan over historical issues” at 52.2%, while “continuous confrontation over the Senkaku islands” came fourth place at 50.4%, it said.
“On the other hand, ‘The Diaoyu/Senkaku islands’ (64%) and ‘historical understanding’ (59.6%) were the two prominent reasons for the unfavorable impression of Japan among the Chinese public,” it said.
Despite a huge trade relationship and their deeply interwoven economies, relations between Tokyo and Beijing have seen several periods of deterioration over recent decades.
But ties have been particularly bad since late 2012 when Japan nationalised the Senkakus, a move it says was just an administrative change, but which China says was a provocation.
Beijing regularly insists that Japan has not atoned enough for its imperialist past, and lambasts nationalist Prime Minister Shinzo Abe for an “incorrect” understanding of history and what it describes as his intention to remilitarise.
For its part, Tokyo accuses Beijing of dwelling on the past for domestic political reasons and says that in the seven decades since World War II it has apologised repeatedly and trodden a pacifist path.
In an editorial, the China Daily described the poll as “worrying”, commenting that “these findings should be concerning” for leaders in both countries.
“There is a need for a meeting between the leaders of both countries to reverse the deteriorating relations,” the paper said, but added: “the ball is in Japan’s court.”
“Abe needs to show Chinese leaders with his actual deeds that he is sincere about improving relations.”
Abe has repeatedly said his door is open for dialogue and called for a summit with Chinese leader Xi Jinping, but has so far been rebuffed."
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