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Monday, November 24, 2014

Japanese Police Launch Groping Eradication Project / Xerox's CEO says - "It’s Not Your Kids Holding Your Career Back. It’s Your Husband." /

It’s Not Your Kids Holding Your Career Back. It’s Your Husband.

By Jessica Grose

Almost a decade ago, the writer Linda Hirshman exhorted ambitious women to marry men with less money or social capital than they had. In articles and her book,Get to Work, she told women that they should avoid ever taking on more than half of the housework or child care. How to do it? Either marry a man who is extremely committed to equality, or do what she says is the easier route and “marry down.” Hirshman explained in the American Prospect that such a choice is not “brutally strategic,” it’s just smart. “If you are devoted to your career goals and would like a man who will support that, you're just doing what men throughout the ages have done: placing a safe bet.”

This was a highly controversial piece of advice at the time, but Hirshman might have been right. A new study of Harvard Business School graduatesfrom HBS’s Robin Ely and Colleen Ammerman and Hunter College sociologist Pamela Stone shows that high-achieving women are not meeting the career goals they set for themselves in their 20s. It’s not because they’re “opting out” of the workforce when they have kids, but because they’re allowing their partners’ careers to take precedence over their own.
The study’s authors interviewed 25,000 men and women who graduated from Harvard Business School over the past several decades. The male graduates were much more likely to be in senior management positions and have more responsibility and more direct reports than their female peers. But why? It’s not because women are leaving the workforce en masse. The authors found, definitively, that the “opt-out” explanation is a myth. Among Gen X and baby boomers they surveyed, only 11 percent of women left the workforce to be full-time moms. That figure is lower for women of color—only 7 percent stopped working. The vast majority (74 percent) of Gen Xers, women who are currently 32-48 and in the prime of their child-rearing years, work full time, an average of 52 hours a week.
But while these women are still working, they are also making more unexpected sacrifices than their male classmates are. When they graduated, more than half of male HBS grads said they expected their careers would take precedence over their partners’. Only 7 percent of Gen X women and 3 percent of baby boomer women said they expected their careers to take precedence. Here’s what they did expect: The majority of women said they assumed they would have egalitarian marriages in which both spouses’ careers were taken equally seriously.
A lot of those women were wrong. About 40 percent of Gen X and boomer women said their spouses’ careers took priority over theirs, while only about 20 percent of them had planned on their careers taking a back seat. Compare that with the men: More than 70 percent of Gen X and boomer men say their careers are more important than their wives’. When you look at child care responsibilities, the numbers are starker. A full 86 percent of Gen X and boomer men said their wives take primary responsibility for child care, and the women agree: 65 percent of Gen X women and 72 percent of boomer women—all HBS grads, most of whom work—say they’re the ones who do most of the child care in their relationships.
Of course, marital arrangements aren’t the only force holding women back. Part of the reason these women aren’t advancing at the same rate as their male counterparts is that after they have kids, they get “mommy-tracked.” In many ways, they’re not considered management candidates anymore. “They may have been stigmatized for taking advantage of flex options or reduced schedules, passed over for high-profile assignments, or removed from projects they once led,” the authors note. Other studies support these findings, as they have shown that there is a real, substantial motherhood penalty that involves lower pay and fewer promotions for women with kids, because employers assume they will be less dedicated to their jobs (as do, we now know, their husbands).

But the personal piece of the female achievement gap puzzle is important, and it’s something that’s very difficult to shift. The study’s authors note that while millennial HBS grads are a little more egalitarian than their older peers, half of the youngest men still assume that their careers will take precedence, and two-thirds of them assume their spouses will do the majority of child care.
Based on these numbers, Hirshman suddenly seems prescient. Take a look at the current crop of female CEOs: A lot of them have husbands who don’t work. Xerox CEO Ursula Burns took a page out of Hirshman’s book and joked at a 2013 conference, “The secret [to success] is to marry someone 20 years older.” Her husband retired as she was hitting her career stride, allowing him to take primary responsibility for their kids. If becoming a CEO and having a family is what you desire, you might want to take that advice.



Police launch 'chikan (groping) eradication' campaign at Ikebukuro Station

by Japan Today

The Tokyo Metropolitan Police Department and several railway companies have kicked off a “chikan” (train groper) eradication campaign.
The campaign began at Tokyo’s Ikebukuro Station on Friday with an event to promote public awareness of the problem, NTV reported.
Police said that as Oct 31, they had arrested 48 persons for allegedly groping women on trains within the last 10 months. Police said, however, that the number of offenses is probably greater as many victims never report being groped.
The campaign urges women who are groped, and anyone who sees a woman being groped on a train, to alert station authorities or call 110.

Interesting Comment ....

Foreigners beware! Grabbing a groper can get you in more trouble than the offender. I grabbed a joker for taking up skirt photos on an escalator at a train staition in Chiba few years ago. He was detained for about 20 minutes, whereas I was detained for two hours and was told by the flops to stay out of Japan trouble. I've removed women from awkward situations on trains quite a few times, usually high school girls being ogled by some drunken oyaji. I push my way in between them and have been abused by the oyaji as many times as I have done it. It's good to see an awareness campaign, but I don't think it will do much to prevent chikan.




Men list top four reasons why they dumped their past girlfriends

By  Casey Baseel - Japan Today

There’s no fail safe strategy for forming a strong, permanent romantic connection. That sort of emotional bond operates on such a deep, personal level that the necessary ingredients will always vary from person to person.
But screwing up a relationship? That, it turns out, there are some pretty universal methods for, as shown by a poll that asked Japanese men what caused them to tell their girlfriends “We’re through!”
Along with fashion and lifestyle, women’s Internet portal How Collect covers dating advice. Looking to get some perspective from the other side of relationships, How Collect asked 30 Japanese men in their 20s what triggered their decision to break up with a girl. Their top four answers are below.
4. Going into hysterics

“If a girl and I get into a fight, I can deal with her crying or being angry,” began one 21-year-old college student. “But if her eyes roll back into her head or she starts shrieking or scraping at her scalp? Once I’ve seen that I get too scared, and even when she goes back to acting normal, I can feel myself tensing up. So if she does that, it’s over.”
You could argue this is pretty heartless, but some people already have enough trouble dealing with their own emotional and mental issues, and don’t have enough energy left over to handle someone else’s, too. In any case, the clawing at her scalp part is a serious point of concern, and it seems like the woman is in more immediate need of a counselor than a boyfriend.
3. Making fun of his academic record

“My ex graduated from Keio (a prestigious Japanese college),” recalls one 26-year-old civil servant. “When we got into an argument,  she said, ‘Where do you get off acting like that, when you went to such a fifth-rate college?’ I was angry, but even more than that, it made me really sad. I couldn’t help but feel that’s how she’d always been thinking of me.”
Japan puts a lot of value on education, and going to a respected school gives job applicants a huge advantage is getting the plum positions that act as a stepping stone to the economic good life. Sure, you could argue that by the time you get into your late 20s you should have developed a thick enough skin, and enough more recent things to be proud of, to not let a remark about your academic background get to you. You could also conclude that anyone who lords their trappings of supposed intelligence over you isn’t really the kind of person you want in your life.
2. Making fun of his parents
“I went out to dinner at a casual restaurant with my old girlfriend,” remembered another college student. “I said the food tasted pretty good, and she shot back with, ‘Your mom must not have been much of a cook, huh?’ After that, it was all downhill until we broke up a little while later.”
Family relationships can be complicated, and even if your boyfriend doesn’t gush about his parents, odds are the fewer negative comments you make about them, the better. Some people say “Nobody beats up my little brother but me,” and it might be safe to assume that most guys operate under the policy of “Nobody makes fun of my parents but me,” too.
1. Cheating on him

“Obviously, right?” asserted one 28-year-old motorcycle courier. “If she cheats on me, we’re braking up, no exceptions…I’ve even told a girl who asked how we could stay together, ‘If you cheated on me, then we’re already through.’”
Whether you’re a guy or a girl, the easiest way to tell someone you don’t really like them is by letting them know you like someone else.
You know something? Looking back over the list, none of these are attractive behaviors, whether you’re a woman or a man. If we give the hysterics a pass for possibly being the result of a chemical imbalance or unresolved emotional trauma, we’re left with making fun of other people and lying to them.
In short, guy or girl, if you’re a terrible person, odds are you’re eventually going to get dumped.



Man arrested for breaking into woman’s hotel room, spanking her with shoehorn

Here’s one you don’t hear every day – a man was arrested in Daisen City, Akita Prefecture last weekend on charges of entering the hotel room of a female acquaintance through the window before proceeding to strike her about the buttocks with a shoehorn that he found in the room. But just what could prompt such behavior?
According to reports, the man, a 25-year-old company employee, entered the business hotel room of the woman (also 25) at around 10 a.m. on the morning of Nov 9, using a ladder (it is uncertain if he provided his own ladder or if the ladder was already in situ), before carrying out his assault.
The man is believed to have confessed to his crimes, telling police, “I did it, I hit her with the shoehorn”. Unfortunately, he failed to elaborate further, so we have no idea what sparked the man’s fury and led him to commit the dual crime of breaking and entering and assault with a weapon.
Since the man entered the hotel room unarmed and grabbed the nearest thing he could use as a weapon, we’re guessing that this was a sudden crime of passion and not a prearranged rendezvous that went badly wrong. Luckily, the woman wasn’t seriously hurt during her ordeal.
Netizens have responded to this odd crime story with a series of bemused tweets:
“To go to the trouble of breaking and entering and then using a shoehorn as a weapon… Just how much damage could a person inflict with one of those things? Or was it some kind of… special shoehorn?!”
“Some kind of couples’ play?”
“Wow, I don’t get it (´・ω・`)”
“So, what happened, exactly? LOL!”
“Yikes, there are some creeps out there… Wait, this is MY home town!”
It seems that the only two people who really know what went on in that hotel room are the man and his victim.

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