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Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Multiracial Miss Japan hopes to change homeland's thinking on identity / Japanese women list top 10 lies they can spot the second a guy says them / Recent Update


Multiracial Miss Japan hopes to change homeland's thinking on identity


By Elaine Lies and Shiori Ito - Japan Today



Ariana Miyamoto hadn’t planned to enter a Japanese beauty contest because she figured her multiracial origins meant she couldn’t win. Then a close multiracial friend committed suicide.
So Miyamoto, the daughter of a Japanese woman and an African-American man, whose bronze skin and height of 1.73 meters are unusual in Japan, where she was born and brought up, took part in the pageant and won, becoming Miss Japan.
“I thought that, for my friend’s sake, if there was something I could do to change Japan, I should,” Miyamoto, 20, a dual Japanese and U.S. national, told Reuters.
“He always felt unaccepted by Japanese ... and that made him unable to accept himself,” she added, in perfect Japanese.

Miyamoto’s selection last month as Japan’s representative to the Miss Universe contest set off an internet firestorm, despite a push to welcome foreigners ahead of the 2020 Summer Olympics.
“That big mouth, that gaudy face. This is Miss Japan?” one social media commenter wrote. Another said she resembled an ant.
The carping was not new for Miyamoto, who attended a Japanese public school where children would refuse to touch her because “my color might rub off,” she said. Fed up, she attended a U.S. high school.
But the pull of her birthplace was too strong and she returned, though she said she is handed English menus and otherwise treated like a foreigner every day.
It’s a frustration shared by a growing number of multiracial Japanese, who may look different in an extremely homogeneous nation. Some have won fame in entertainment, but others lack acceptance as the Japanese they feel they are.
In 2013, international marriages made up 3.3% of the total, government figures show, or four times the 1980 figure. Mixed race children were 1.9% of those born that year.
Miyamoto’s victory was “refreshing”, said Greg Dvorak, a researcher in Asian and Pacific culture and history at Hitotsubashi University, adding that Japan’s reputation as closed to diversity is overblown, despite instances of xenophobia.
“My sense is there is a growing shift among younger generations to accept that people with all faces can speak Japanese and function successfully in Japanese society,” he said. “Whether that will translate into all sorts of appearances being accepted as Japanese remains to be seen.”
Miyamoto hopes to do her part, especially if she wins the Miss Universe title. Japanese contestants have won twice before.
“Japan is trying to change itself,” she said. “I’d like to help it change even more.”
http://www.japantoday.com/category/arts-culture/view/multiracial-miss-japan-hopes-to-change-homelands-thinking-on-identity?utm_campaign=jt_newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_source=jt_newsletter_2015-04-06_AM


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Japanese women list top 10 lies they can spot the second a guy says them


By Casey Baseel, Rocket News 24



It’s often said that honesty is the best policy. Anyone who’s spent much time in the dating pool, though, will tell you that not everyone communicates in such an upfront and open manner.
From well-meaning fibs like “Hey, it’s been fun” (when it really hasn’t) to more alarming lies like “I have no idea how your sister’s panties ended up on my kitchen floor!” some women feel they’ve been exposed to so much dishonesty from men that they’ve become experts in detecting it. Seeking to find out the phrases tip them off, a recent survey asked Japanese women which words they know aren’t true as soon as they hear a guy say them.
To compile the results, Internet portal Livedoor News spoke with 441 women, ranging in age from 19 to 78 years old, asking “Is there a phrase you can’t trust if it’s coming from a guy?” Before getting to the top 10, we should point out that over 70% of the respondents don’t deal in absolutes, answering “no” to that question.
On the other hand, that leaves 28.8%, or 127 women, whose warning bells do get set off by certain lines, and below are the most common responses.
10. “You’re beautiful. / Kirei.” (two respondents)
“So many guys act like it’s no big deal to say this, so I can’t believe them,” explained one 29-year-old survey participant.
9. “I’ll do it later. / Ato de yaru.” (two respondents)
The respondents didn’t specify what they wanted done, but apparently the fact that the men in question never did it is enough to convince them that, for men, the only things really worth doing are worth doing right now.
8. “You’re the only one… / Omae dake…” (three respondents)
Encompassing “You’re the only one I want to be with” and “You’re the only one who makes me feel this way,” next up is a phrase that can be completed in multiple ways. And in the eyes of these respondents, the guy saying it probably has a different finisher for each girl he tells it to.
7. “I’d never cheat on you. / Uwaki nante shinai.” (five respondents)
“Only guys who are cheating say this,” explained the 22-year-old administrative assistant who thinks some men doth protest too much.
6. “I’ll never do that again. / Mou nido to shinai.” (five respondents)
“Oh yes he will,” laughed the 23-year-old insurance company employee who designated this line as a red flag. And if he does, he’ll probably say the same thing then, too.
5. “I love you. / Ai shiteiru.” (eight respondents)
To clarify, Japanese has two ways to say “I love you.” Well, actually a lot more than two, but for now, let’s stick to the two major ones.
First, there’s “suki desu,” which can range in intensity from slightly more than platonic attraction to full-on romantic love. More cut-and-dried, though, is ai shiteiru, which in a dating context is only used for romantic love. It’s this latter, more serious declaration of emotion that these respondents say they know isn’t true when they hear it.
4. “You’re cute. / Kawaii.” (11 respondents)
Surprisingly, “You’re cute” outpaced “You’re beautiful” on the survey, and by a pretty wide margin. The likely explanation is that kawaii (“cute”) is the more common go-to compliment in Japanese society, encompassing a wider spectrum of warm feminine attractiveness than its English equivalent is usually used for. That prevalence itself that made these respondents feel the words aren’t genuine, with a 27-year-old IT worker dismissing it since “Everyone says it as a meaningless social nicety.”
3. “I’ll call/email/text you. / Mata renraku suru.” (17 respondents)
Speaking of social niceties, here’s another. “It’s not just with men,” adds a 27-year-old medical worker. “In general, I don’t believe people when they say this.”
2. “Let’s go out for dinner/a drink sometime. / Kondo shokuji/nomi ni ikou.” (18 respondents)
As always, the devil’s in the details. “How about dinner on Friday?” That’s a sure sign that he’s into you. But “sometime?” Once they hear that, these women know what’s coming, and it’s a lot of waiting for an invitation that’s never going to come.
1. “Absolutely… / Zettai ni…” (27 respondents)
The top answer actually overlaps with many of the lower-ranking responses. Offered as possible ways to complete the lie were “I absolutely won’t cheat on you” and “I’ll absolutely make you happy.” These respondents, though, ultimately, definitely, won’t believe a guy who lays those lines on them.
While being deceived is always unpleasant, looking over the list, there seems to be a catch-22 going on in earning some of these ladies’ trust. Sure, it’s definitely suspicious if a guy, apropos of nothing, suddenly mentions, “Oh, by the way, I would never cheat on you.” But while many of these phrases can be incorporated in painful lies, some of them, if said earnestly, are sort of required for a functional and happy relationship.
For example, having a guy declare “I love you,” before you’re done with the appetizers on your first date would probably be pretty creepy. But on the other hand, if you’ve been going out for months or years, immediately assuming he’s being dishonest when he says those three special words (or two, in the case of ai shiteiru) is going to sabotage your chances at lasting romance. Likewise, you’re kind of shooting yourself in the foot if every time a guy says you look nice, you conclude he’s a liar (not to mention potentially wrecking your own self-esteem, as far as your appearance is concerned).
Taking a closer look at the data, while the women surveyed were in the wide age range of 19 to 78, it seems that many of those who answered “yes” to the question of if there’s a phrase they can’t trust are in their early 20s. Getting stung by a lie once or twice at such a young age can be traumatic, and without the perspective and experience necessary to judge people’s trustworthiness on an individual basis, it’s easy to see how many might jump to a blanket ruling of “Guys are always lying if they say this!” Here’s hoping, though, that those emotional scars heal as they move away from the bottom age groups covered by the survey.
http://www.japantoday.com/category/lifestyle/view/japanese-women-list-top-10-lies-they-can-spot-the-second-a-guy-says-them?utm_campaign=jt_newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_source=jt_newsletter_2015-03-26_PM

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Recent Life Update


Ohh how busy I became.... I have to force myself to update this blog.


Day 2585 ( Visiting Utsunomiya, Tochigi )
Saturday, April 18, 2015

Went to Utsunomiya today to meet some peeps. And also watched Fast and Furious 7.





Crazy fun and action... plus kinda emotional ... 10/10.

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Day 2593 ( Game of Thrones / Attack on Titan )
Sunday, April 26, 2015

Started watching season 5 of Game of thrones and another anime called Attack on Titan. Both has captured my attention when I'm not too busy. But I need to start studying Japanese again as I'm apparently the only one in the office that is not fluent in Japanese.






Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Penis Festival in Kawasaki / Woman tries to kill husband because he didn't give her White Day gift


I'm not gone I'm not gone, just really busy !!!! It's crazy back at the Yokohama Office.


Day 2570 ( Training Training )
Wednesday, April 2, 2015



Did a brief presentation at a company training session today. I was as nervous as ever so I don't think it went too well but, you know, that's just life.

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Was chatting with my Wednesday night private student and suddenly some of my old elementary school students in Yokohama came up to the Starbucks window, calling me to take a photo.



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Day 2573 ( Penis Festival in Kawasaki )
Sunday, April 5, 2015

Was gonna go to a penis festival in Kawasaki, about 45 mins from me, but it was raining so I cancelled. A couple of my friends went tho.

Here is a bit of info about it by Greg Lane

"The Kanamara Festival originated around Kanayama Shrine – a penis venerating shrine in Kawasaki that was once popular with prostitutes who prayed for protection from sexually transmitted diseases.
The festival features the display of numerous giant phalli, penis shaped snacks and a mikoshi parade which includes the distinctive pink ‘Elizabeth Mikoshi’ which was donated by a drag queen club called Elizabeth and which is also carried by men in drag."




http://tokyocheapo.com/events/kanamara-penis-festival/

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Day 2574 ( Toyama Debriefing )
Monday, April 6, 2015


Met with the guy who asked me to stay in Toyama for a year and had lunch. Met a couple other people at our head office as well who thanked me for the year in Toyama.

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Day 2578 ( Be careful of IMO Talent Agency in Tokyo  )
Saturday, April 11, 2015

So 4 years ago when I just moved to Yokohama, I signed up with a few talent agencies. This particular one, IMO (Inagawa Motokohttp://www.inagawamotoko.com/bosyu.php
is verrrrry verrrry shady. In 4 years, this is like the 3rd time they are calling me for a job. They called me on Wednesday and told me to come for a part in a drama on Saturday and Sunday. I asked about the pay, exactly what I was doing, how long it would take etc... and they couldn't give me an answer. All they said was to meet a manager guy and FujiTV people in Tokyo at 6:30 am.

So I got up this morning at 4:30 am and rushed to Tokyo, even missed 2 trains and when I got there, I saw the TV crew and a couple other people in the rain waiting for another dude. We had to wait for 30 mins... then got driven back to close where I was coming from in the first place.

So about 14 of us were in a room, no one knowing what's going on. We had to stay in the room for like 10 hours and periodically shooting short scenes for the drama. I was getting really pissed because of the lack of information and the time I was wasting there.... So I got angry and left at 6:30 pm ... 12 hours after getting to Tokyo.....I don't even care if they pay me or not....The FujiTV staff present were also really horrible at dealing with people. The good thing out of all of this was that I met  some cool people.




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Woman tries to kill husband because he didn't give her White Day gift


Japan Today

Police in Sakai City, Osaka Prefecture, on Monday arrested a 43-year-old woman on a charge of attempted murder after she tried to strangle her 31-year-old husband to death, claiming he didn’t give her anything for White Day on Saturday.

According to police, the woman, identified as Mie Nishiyama, started to strangle her sleeping husband with a necktie at around 12:35 a.m. Monday, Sports Nippon reported. The man woke up and subdued his wife, before calling police.
Nishiyama, who manages a beauty salon, was quoted by police as saying she got mad at her husband because he didn’t give her chocolates or any other gift on White Day, which is when men traditionally give gifts to women in return for chocolates they received on Valentine’s day.
Police said Nishiyama told them she had been drinking alcohol before the incident and that she had no intent to kill her husband, who suffered only light injuries.
http://www.japantoday.com/category/crime/view/woman-tries-to-kill-husband-because-he-didnt-give-her-white-day-gift?utm_campaign=jt_newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_source=jt_newsletter_2015-03-16_PM


Thursday, April 2, 2015

Ex-Girlfriends Trying to Ruin My Life / Final Days in Toyama - Back to Yokohama

Been really busy for the past few weeks so I haven't updated my blog in a minute.


Ex Girlfriends Trying to Ruin my life

Found out fairly recently that one of my ex-girlfriends posted some damning thing about me on the internet. All in beautiful Japanese. She was clearly bitter about our break up and decided to mar my character via the internet. And to think I was actually planning to marry this lady.

So a friend of mine was searching for this very blog via google. Then suddenly, a weird internet site came up among the other google stuff, with my name written out on it. My friend sent the website to me and it was saying all manner of messed up stuff about me in Japanese.


She didn't put her name there but only one person in the world would have done this and she knows herself.The worst thing is that this damning report about me was up on the internet for over a year. I won't even say anything bad about her. I wish her all the best. I had to do some swift actions to have the website remove it.

Then in short order, another ex either did this herself or got someone to create a fake profile on facebook using one of my pictures.




Again I know exactly who did it but, for what reason? Your guess is as good as mine. These are the reasons why they became exes. I need to do some serious screening before entering relationships.....  

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Final days in Toyama and back to Yokohama


Day 2548 ( Banana Bread Baking )
Wednesday, March 11, 2015

The very difficult to manage, English club at the school, baked banana bread today based on a recipe I gave them. It took about 90 mins overall and they were surprisingly delicious...





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Day 2551 ( My Poor Japanese Speaking Ability )
Saturday, March 14, 2015

So I've been studying Japanese at a private institution since January this year. The owner of the institution was listening to today's lesson and eventually said to me that my Japanese vocabulary is weak..... Jeez after 7 years here that was what I got. I just need to find the time and motivation to seriously take up studying Japanese more.


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Day 2552 (My Last 2 Calligraphy drawings in Toyama)
Sunday, March 15, 2015

Drew these two kanjis today.

Smile

River

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Day 2553 ( Graduation Day )
Monday, March 16, 2015

The School that I'm at in Toyama since May, had their graduation ceremony today. So all the 3rd year students will be moving on to high school.






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Day 2557 ( My Sayonara Party in Toyama )
Friday, March 20, 2015 { 7 Years in Japan !!! }

I had a goodbye party today at 2 locations in Toyama. First at the Jamaican restaurant,















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Day 2561 ( Last Day at the School )
Tuesday, March 24, 2015

There was a goodbye ceremony at the school today for all the teachers who were leaving. I was tearing up but nope .... That won't happen in front of people... There has to be some ORDER !

About 13 of the teachers at the school treated me to a farewell party in the evening. Luckily I got slightly drunk so they couldn't see my sadness.




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Day 2566 ( Sayonara Toyama - See You again soon )
Sunday, March 29, 2015

Had a slightly rough flight to Tokyo today.


And this girl beside me fell asleep on my shoulder.


Who the heck is this?????

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Day 2568 ( Back in the Yokohama Office )
Tuesday, March 31, 2015

First day back at the office, and a few people forgot who I was lol. Ohhh this transition may take some time.