10 Reasons Why Some Foreigners Don't Date Japanese Women / 6th Birthday in Japan
Japanese Word of the week - Tabun - たぶん / Maybe, Perhaps
2 weeks
Days 2006 - 2019
Sunday, September 15 - 28, 2013
Week 1
Day 2006 ( Landmark Tower / Now You See Me )
Sunday, September 15, 2013
Went to church then walked around the Minato Mirai area of Yokohama for a while. Finally after over 2 years in Yokohama, I went to the top of the tallest building in Japan. The Landmark tower.
You can see a good portion of Yokohama from the 69th Floor. It offers a 360 degree view. It had the record of having the fastest elevator for about 11 years until it was dethroned by an elevator in Taipei in 2004. Here is a view from top.
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Now you See Me
Watched this movie today... Really interesting. I highly recommend it but I didn't like the end. Really good acting, had some funny moments in it as well, very interesting story and twist. Good action..... Now You See Me .... You should go see it... I give it a 8 /10 only because I didn't fancy the ending.
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Day 2007 ( Typhoon But Work )
Monday, September 16, 2013
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Day 2008 ( )
Tuesday, September 17, 2013
Had no classes at my Tuesday school. Then went to teach 2 of my business English classes. In the first class we spoke about making a schedule in English. While in the advanced class we spoke about what they normally do during holiday periods. One student said he rode a bicycle from Nagasaki up to Aomori. 819 Miles !!!! That's further than riding from Jamaica to Florida....
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Day 2009 ( 10 Reasons Why Some Foreigners Don't Date Japanese Women)
Wednesday, September 18, 2013
Usual Wednesdays. 3 classes at my main school, 2 classes at YMCA then my private student.
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Here I am again stirring up a bee hive. Very possible for some Japanese to mis-read or misinterpret this post.... Just remember this is just what I gained from my research. Not an attack or anything like that. Here are some reasons sighted as to Why Some foreigners don't date Japanese women.
- Cultural Differences
This is an obvious one. Some foreign men just simply can't deal with the cultural differences. They have no interest in taking on the adventure.... Actually I was like this before I came to Japan and for my first say 5 months here.
- Language Barrier
This can also put a great hamper on relationships anywhere. Some would say love is a universal language, but if you can't communicate well, then there are bound to be some serious trouble coming. So some foreigners avoid the potential disaster.
- Tried, But Bad Experience
I've heard some interesting stories from men from many different racial backgrounds that dated Japanese women before. I remember one guy from England telling me how his ex-fiance threw his TV and couch, 5 floors down ... because he stayed by his friend's house who was sick !!!! He said he will never date another Japanese woman in this life time because of that experience.
- Some Japanese Women are only Interested simply because you are Black/White (insert race here) No other Reason
Yeah some Japanese women are only interested in a foreigner because he is this or that...So it means 2 things... (1) If you are not of a particular race you will be left out (2) If you are chosen .. then its not because of your personality, its because of your race.
- The Japanese women are not interested in them
If a Japanese woman deem a foreigner as unattractive, then he might have some difficulty landing a date. Even if he is interested. However, some Japanese simply just love a Black/White man and doesn't give a damn how good looking, old or stupid he is....
- A vicious Rumor (or is it?) Exists About No sex after marriage / After the first child
Some foreigners learn about this rumor (or fact) and just decide not to even bother dating Japanese women.
- Their parents don't like foreigners
Many Japanese parents, scarcely approve of foreign boyfriends.
- Their thinking is basic, childish and/or strange to western foreigners
Japanese thinking is way different from us in the west. A Western man will find it weird if a Japanese woman is still living with her parents after 35. We want to get away from our parents as soon as we leave High School. Some men simply find this kawaii (cute) culture very annoying, crazy and/or childish.
- A very few foreigners simply aren't interested in Asian women
A friend of mine said he is not at all attracted to Asian women so he wouldn't date one. One of my cousins also said that the Asian skin colour is simply not his kinda thing.
- Their Strong religious belief forbids them from Dating Outside
A very devout Christian, Jew, Muslim (insert religion) may not be interested in dating a Japanese woman. Or Japanese women may not be interested in dating them...
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Day 2010 ( Happy Birthday Dave Collymore - My 6th Birthday Celebration in Japan )
Thursday, September 19, 2013
First thing on the agenda for my birthday was to teach my "Business woman" private student. I told her yesterday that it would be my birthday today ... :)
So she got 2 pairs of Ralph Lauren (My favourite brand) Socks for me.
Then I got a Ralph Lauren wallet. All just by chance... I told no one of my love for Ralph Lauren stuff.
I'm not so sure what to put in the wallet located in this box, because this school year I'm broke!. Don't worry about how you see me going here and there lol.
I was then invited to a Spanish restaurant in Kawasaki. The food was fully delicious.
Thanks to everyone who wished me Happy Birthday via phone, electronic means or where ever. Of course most of the wishes came from facebook. I feel like 45. I got home at 12:30 am
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Oh I made a part 1 for my video blog. I made it um 2 weeks ago !!! It is about a Japanese reggae thing that I went to during the summer. Here is the video.
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Day 2011 ( )
Friday, September 20, 2013
I was planning to play soccer with the High School students today but I intentionally left my soccer gears because I was tired from my birthday celebrations yesterday. So I was introduced to them and plan to start playing with them next week. So I went home after being introduced to them then went to the YMCA to teach one class. When I went to the YMCA, I was greeted with this drawn picture of me.....
They were saying that my drawings and writings are terrible... So they drew me based on how they imagined I would have drawn myself..... Come on guys... I'm much better than this ....... I got home at 10 pm.
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Day 2012 ( More Work On Saturdays )
Saturday, September 21, 2013
On Saturdays when I should be at home relaxing, I have to get up earlier than during the week. And today, work longer than usual. Started teaching at 10:15am I would normally end at 12:30... But they added 2 special needs group that started at 2:15 and end at 4:15....
I then went to Yokohama to search for football boots (spikes) and a barikan (barber share). I ended up going to several stores in the general Yokohama area. And Halloween stuff were already on sale. Check them out.
I was then treated to some food at Fridays...... They also gave me a birthday cheese cake.
After fulling my stomach, I ended up having to go to Kamioka... about 8 mins by train from the Yokohama station. That's where I finally found the football spikes and the share... I'm about to start trimming my own hair in order to cut expenses .....
I got a pair of football spikes called Ligera 3.
Got home at around 12 am.
That was my Birthday Week pretty much.
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Week 2
Day 2013 <Don't confuse it with the year...This will never happen again>
( Performance in Koenji Tokyo )
Sunday, September 22, 2013
Had rehearsal at 12 noon today for my performance. But I was too tired from yesterday so I went to the practice at around 2:30. My friend I-Marcus (below)... set up a band so that we could perform together....
My friend came through from Saitama. Haven't seen her in over 2 years.
The show went pretty well and some persons came up to me saying "good job" .. One dude said I reminded him of some reggae guy... Don't quite remember his name...Didn't even realize that the people were liking what I was doing... Because my voice was going.....
This was the first one.... Boom Boom ....
Then I did one of my favorites .... Gi mi a bly .....
I think we performed for a total of 40 mins together. I'm not used to being on stage for so long. I-Marcus is ok with this because he did tours in Guam and Saipan etc. After my first poem/song my throat started acting up. I was coughing. At the end of the 40 mins performance. I had a splitting headache. But it was mad fun....
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Day 2014 ( Performance in Sagamihara )
Monday, September 23, 2013
So just as how me and I-Marcus finished yesterday night... We also did a performance this afternoon at an African Heritage festival. They had many food stalls and African cultural stuff there in Sagamihara, about 1 hour from where I live. Its like I'm on tour but not getting paid lol.
My friend Vany took the video for me.... I already added too many videos up top.. I won't put another one in this post.... Thanks for coming out Van and Er...
We had dinner afterwards and I ended up getting home at around 12.
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Day 2015 ( Wrong Pronunciations)
Tuesday, September 24, 2013
So at my Tuesday school, most of the English teachers they don't really think in advance. They just come up to me as soon as they see me, then start planning there. Anyway, I had a class with one of my teacher friends today, and he asked me to pronounce some words. One of them was "Women" ... So I said "Women" as how we would say it in Jamaica.... But the teacher said the students are more used to the American way of pronouncing which sounds like "Wimen". So I had to repeat it that way.... Now, I felt a bit tense after the teacher explained that to me.... I was then given a passage to read from their English text book... So I saw the word "woman" .... I was thinking to myself now... darn.... "how do Americans pronounce Woman???" ... I saw the word and stupidly said "Wiman" ...... then thought about it ....... After reading the entire passage I thought "They are probably going to fire me now" lol ... What kind of English teacher am I... "Wiman???" I've never heard such a thing in my life ....
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Day 2016 ( Futsal )
Wednesday, September 25, 2013
So I've been coming in really late and sleeping really late which is of course taking a toll on my sleeping time. So I woke up a bit late this morning and rushed to my main school. I got there 5 minutes late and a teacher had to escort me to my class. When I got there, the teacher was very happy to see me, and so were the students. But after the class she said "You need to start coming earlier" .... I promised that I would....
I then had 2 classes at the YMCA... First, the naughty kids.... There were initially 2 boys in this class.. But a parent pulled one of the boys who was rebelling against English and giving none stop trouble during classes. Now there is only one boy. He is also a trouble maker but not as bad as the first one. This boy was absent today. I thought that since the boys were not around, the girls would be well-behaved.... Ha, how wrong I was. It seem as if the boys were the ones keeping the girls from getting out of control. Today the girls were doing all manner of stuff and not wanting to listen. It was a headache to clam them down. Even the Japanese teacher before me said they were mis-behaving a bit.
Later on I had my private student. I spoke to him about the 2 sides of Jamaica... The garrison areas as well as the nice resort areas that most normal Jamaicans probably can't afford.
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So now I was heading to play football at 8:30pm. I was stopped by a lady selling a cooler thing.... Hot and cold machine thingy .... Ok this... I don't know the name..........Water server???
She said I would get the machine free but have to pay 1500 yen for the water.... So I said "Ok let me try, even though I'm rushing to play football". She then asked me for my address etc. and went for a contract. She looked at my address and said "Oh the water for your area is 1900 yen " ... "And you have to buy 2 bottles" ... Instantly I shut down ... and told her sorry I don't have the time... Because I'm sure she was going to add some other cost or maybe that I have to buy the water twice a month or some crap...
Anyway, I rushed to play football and had a good time there. I scored 3 goals. This is warm up to train with the High school guys on Friday. I was warned that these high school football guys in Yokohama are reallly!!! good and they don't get tired!!! I finally got home at about 12:20.
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Day 2017 ( )
Thursday, September 26, 2013
Still tired but the work must go on. I spoke to my private student today about a seminar she went to recently. Also did a personality test with her that I saw posted in the "Jamaicans in Japan" facebook group.
http://www.slideshare.net/slideshow/embed_code/94198
I scored 46. Whats your score??
I then substituted for a teacher at my part-time job in Hiratsuka. I also gave them the personality test.
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Day 2018 ( Football with High Schoolers OMG!! )
Friday, September 27, 2013
I needed a pass-time between my main job and my second job on Fridays. Because I have a 4-5 hour break between jobs. So I decided to try training with the high school guys at my main school. My main school is just one stop away from my second job. So while getting some exercise, I can avoid going back to my apartment and waiting for 4 hours.
The first part of training involved passing the ball with your right foot then your left.... "What?? My left foot too??" I gasped... My right foot was fine.. But my left??? A big joke.... Next exercise ... Thigh control and pass with instep ..... Ok not too bad.... Then with left foot.... "darn" .... They are slowly figuring out that I'm no where near their level..... Next- control in the chest and pass the ball..... .. Fine ... Then jump header .... That was terrible ..... Next- long pass from half way across the field.... This too was a disaster....
I was told that they will be having a match tomorrow so they have to practice really hard.... Forward vs defense.... I ended up kicking the ball around with the bench team for about 1hr and a half .... The place eventually got pitch black... So they stopped playing and did this ladder exercise thing.... I have never done it before in all my years of playing soccer.
But then I thought about it.... I haven't done real soccer training since like 1995 .... I did attend about 3 training sessions while in university first and second year ... lets see hmmm 2001 and 2002!!! more than 10 years ago....Jeez I'm getting old.... Then to top it off now... The guys were doing some 50 meter races.... What the heck! I'm Jamaican ... I should be faster than all these guys..... hahahahaha what a joke... I decided to test my running skills.... This drew a crowd because they knew I was from Jamaica. I was a bit concerned about the crowd but what the heck!!!!I am Jamaican!!!!
4 of us ran and I came in 3rd ..... I am still wondering if the guy that came in last was just joking around... However, the guys who were in front of me..... They were wayyy ahead ... couldn't catch them.... and my feet were wobbling as if I would fall, should I go any faster, which I couldn't..... Major embarrassment ... I don't want to go back to that training.... But I still have to face some of these guys in English class!!!
While feeling very embarrassed and putting on my clothes....2 students said to me "please come again next week!!!" .... WHAT!! Yuh mad!! .... I left, told them bye and headed to the YMCA. I got in at 10:30.
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Day 2019 ( Tokyo Game Show 2013)
Saturday, September 28, 2013
After doing my 3 classes at the YMCA today, I was waiting to know if the special needs class would still be going on. But as my boss always forgets to tell me stuff, I asked ... and as sure as night follows day, she forgot. So no classes today. It means less money but more rest.
When I got home, I sat down from around 5pm writing this very blog post. At 2 am in the morning I still wasn't finished. Why do I spend so much time doing this??? ... It's beyond me...
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That was my Birthday Week pretty much.
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Day 2013 <Don't confuse it with the year...This will never happen again>
( Performance in Koenji Tokyo )
Sunday, September 22, 2013
Had rehearsal at 12 noon today for my performance. But I was too tired from yesterday so I went to the practice at around 2:30. My friend I-Marcus (below)... set up a band so that we could perform together....
My friend came through from Saitama. Haven't seen her in over 2 years.
The show went pretty well and some persons came up to me saying "good job" .. One dude said I reminded him of some reggae guy... Don't quite remember his name...Didn't even realize that the people were liking what I was doing... Because my voice was going.....
This was the first one.... Boom Boom ....
Then I did one of my favorites .... Gi mi a bly .....
I think we performed for a total of 40 mins together. I'm not used to being on stage for so long. I-Marcus is ok with this because he did tours in Guam and Saipan etc. After my first poem/song my throat started acting up. I was coughing. At the end of the 40 mins performance. I had a splitting headache. But it was mad fun....
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Day 2014 ( Performance in Sagamihara )
Monday, September 23, 2013
So just as how me and I-Marcus finished yesterday night... We also did a performance this afternoon at an African Heritage festival. They had many food stalls and African cultural stuff there in Sagamihara, about 1 hour from where I live. Its like I'm on tour but not getting paid lol.
My friend Vany took the video for me.... I already added too many videos up top.. I won't put another one in this post.... Thanks for coming out Van and Er...
We had dinner afterwards and I ended up getting home at around 12.
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Day 2015 ( Wrong Pronunciations)
Tuesday, September 24, 2013
So at my Tuesday school, most of the English teachers they don't really think in advance. They just come up to me as soon as they see me, then start planning there. Anyway, I had a class with one of my teacher friends today, and he asked me to pronounce some words. One of them was "Women" ... So I said "Women" as how we would say it in Jamaica.... But the teacher said the students are more used to the American way of pronouncing which sounds like "Wimen". So I had to repeat it that way.... Now, I felt a bit tense after the teacher explained that to me.... I was then given a passage to read from their English text book... So I saw the word "woman" .... I was thinking to myself now... darn.... "how do Americans pronounce Woman???" ... I saw the word and stupidly said "Wiman" ...... then thought about it ....... After reading the entire passage I thought "They are probably going to fire me now" lol ... What kind of English teacher am I... "Wiman???" I've never heard such a thing in my life ....
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Day 2016 ( Futsal )
Wednesday, September 25, 2013
So I've been coming in really late and sleeping really late which is of course taking a toll on my sleeping time. So I woke up a bit late this morning and rushed to my main school. I got there 5 minutes late and a teacher had to escort me to my class. When I got there, the teacher was very happy to see me, and so were the students. But after the class she said "You need to start coming earlier" .... I promised that I would....
I then had 2 classes at the YMCA... First, the naughty kids.... There were initially 2 boys in this class.. But a parent pulled one of the boys who was rebelling against English and giving none stop trouble during classes. Now there is only one boy. He is also a trouble maker but not as bad as the first one. This boy was absent today. I thought that since the boys were not around, the girls would be well-behaved.... Ha, how wrong I was. It seem as if the boys were the ones keeping the girls from getting out of control. Today the girls were doing all manner of stuff and not wanting to listen. It was a headache to clam them down. Even the Japanese teacher before me said they were mis-behaving a bit.
Later on I had my private student. I spoke to him about the 2 sides of Jamaica... The garrison areas as well as the nice resort areas that most normal Jamaicans probably can't afford.
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So now I was heading to play football at 8:30pm. I was stopped by a lady selling a cooler thing.... Hot and cold machine thingy .... Ok this... I don't know the name..........Water server???
She said I would get the machine free but have to pay 1500 yen for the water.... So I said "Ok let me try, even though I'm rushing to play football". She then asked me for my address etc. and went for a contract. She looked at my address and said "Oh the water for your area is 1900 yen " ... "And you have to buy 2 bottles" ... Instantly I shut down ... and told her sorry I don't have the time... Because I'm sure she was going to add some other cost or maybe that I have to buy the water twice a month or some crap...
Anyway, I rushed to play football and had a good time there. I scored 3 goals. This is warm up to train with the High school guys on Friday. I was warned that these high school football guys in Yokohama are reallly!!! good and they don't get tired!!! I finally got home at about 12:20.
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Day 2017 ( )
Thursday, September 26, 2013
Still tired but the work must go on. I spoke to my private student today about a seminar she went to recently. Also did a personality test with her that I saw posted in the "Jamaicans in Japan" facebook group.
http://www.slideshare.net/slideshow/embed_code/94198
I scored 46. Whats your score??
I then substituted for a teacher at my part-time job in Hiratsuka. I also gave them the personality test.
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Day 2018 ( Football with High Schoolers OMG!! )
Friday, September 27, 2013
The first part of training involved passing the ball with your right foot then your left.... "What?? My left foot too??" I gasped... My right foot was fine.. But my left??? A big joke.... Next exercise ... Thigh control and pass with instep ..... Ok not too bad.... Then with left foot.... "darn" .... They are slowly figuring out that I'm no where near their level..... Next- control in the chest and pass the ball..... .. Fine ... Then jump header .... That was terrible ..... Next- long pass from half way across the field.... This too was a disaster....
I was told that they will be having a match tomorrow so they have to practice really hard.... Forward vs defense.... I ended up kicking the ball around with the bench team for about 1hr and a half .... The place eventually got pitch black... So they stopped playing and did this ladder exercise thing.... I have never done it before in all my years of playing soccer.
But then I thought about it.... I haven't done real soccer training since like 1995 .... I did attend about 3 training sessions while in university first and second year ... lets see hmmm 2001 and 2002!!! more than 10 years ago....Jeez I'm getting old.... Then to top it off now... The guys were doing some 50 meter races.... What the heck! I'm Jamaican ... I should be faster than all these guys..... hahahahaha what a joke... I decided to test my running skills.... This drew a crowd because they knew I was from Jamaica. I was a bit concerned about the crowd but what the heck!!!!I am Jamaican!!!!
4 of us ran and I came in 3rd ..... I am still wondering if the guy that came in last was just joking around... However, the guys who were in front of me..... They were wayyy ahead ... couldn't catch them.... and my feet were wobbling as if I would fall, should I go any faster, which I couldn't..... Major embarrassment ... I don't want to go back to that training.... But I still have to face some of these guys in English class!!!
While feeling very embarrassed and putting on my clothes....2 students said to me "please come again next week!!!" .... WHAT!! Yuh mad!! .... I left, told them bye and headed to the YMCA. I got in at 10:30.
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Day 2019 ( Tokyo Game Show 2013)
Saturday, September 28, 2013
After doing my 3 classes at the YMCA today, I was waiting to know if the special needs class would still be going on. But as my boss always forgets to tell me stuff, I asked ... and as sure as night follows day, she forgot. So no classes today. It means less money but more rest.
When I got home, I sat down from around 5pm writing this very blog post. At 2 am in the morning I still wasn't finished. Why do I spend so much time doing this??? ... It's beyond me...
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