Japanese Wives Mostly Stay Home (Re-post)
Days 2027 - 2037 (11 Days)
Sunday, October 6 - Wednesday, October 16, 2013
Day 2027 ( )
Sunday, October 6, 2013
Went to church today with my friend then to an Indian restaurant afterwards. I wish there was a restaurant like this near to my apartment. Good food for relatively cheap. We saw this cool dog while heading back to my apartment.
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Day 2028 ( )
Monday, October 7, 2013
Just did one class at the YMCA then went home. All I did was call some card names with them, jump around with them a bit and that was it.
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Day 2029 ( )
Tuesday, October 8, 2013
There is an exchange student at my Tuesday school. She is from the nearest country to Norway :) and speaks some amount of English but almost no Japanese. So she is in the classes staring in space. She hasn't a clue what is going on.
I spoke to her for about 40 mins today because it's test time now, and you know she can't understand it.
She said she is having a bit of a hard time in Japan. She said her math classes are especially terrible because she won't be doing that level of math until say the next 2 years. She also said that when she just came to the class, the students tried to speak to her but now!!! they avoid her like the plague. All the other students do is say "hello" "goodbye" that's it. So she is bored at school. But it doesn't end there. Her host parents are rich, live near the beach and drive a jaguar. She loves the beach but she can't go because her host parents hate the beach. They told her she can go if she want, but she doesn't even know how to open their door lol. Too much security stuff. So she is at home bored as well.
She also said that her host parents have a dog name Allan.... Her name hmm lets just say it sounds like Allan.... So whenever they call her, the dog also comes. Whenever they call the dog, she also goes...And this happens everyday.
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After my Tuesday school, I went to Komatsu to teach business English. There is a new student there. He has a doctorate in Laser Technology!!! But his English isn't all that good. Well, his spoken English that is. He writes and reads pretty well. He is Japanese but believe me, he looks almost exactly like Mark Ruffalo (Dude that acted as Hulk in Avengers and the police dude in "Now you see me")
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Day 2030 (
Wednesday, October 9, 2013
Had no YMCA after my main job today because the YMCA is having some training exercises all this week. I will be attending one tomorrow for 2 hours. So after my main job, I went home then to my private student.
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A friend of mine ask me some time ago while living in Okayama... "Why doesn't my land lord invite his wife out with him when we meet" ... I also notice that many of my Japanese friends who are married, they some how hide their wives.... a part of the answer is that, many of them are stay-home wives. Another answer (especially for rural Japanese) is that they don't want to shock their wives too much by introducing them to a foreigner. If some Japanese can face the facts, a couple of them really don't want to be seen with foreigners. I saw this quite a bit in Okayama. Where I would see someone I knew for a while, speak with them in private and all is well.... But when there are around their friends, they kinda give you the cold shoulder or look at you strange, like their friends do......
Back to the stay home Japanese wives... Well yeah most Japanese wives stay home at nights ...taking care of the kids and the house. Well that's if they don't have the 18 hour jobs that most Japanese in general has. Its just an understanding in Japanese culture that the husband goes out and chill, gets drunk and do silly things with their friends, while the wives stay in, look after the kids and house stuff. If the wives have the 18 hour jobs, then they stay at work all day while the kids either stay home with the grand mother or stay at a nursery school for a bit.
I must also mention that most Japanese, maybe 65% of them, don't depart from their parent's home....Especially in rural areas..... Its either both parties in the marriage agree to stay with the husband's parents or with the parents of the wife. So a normal Japanese house hold may consist of husband, wife, kids, plus mother and father of either the husband or the wife. There is this lady I know, her husband's family has a massive field with crops of all sorts. Now, this lady who is not used to the planting and uprooting business, is stuck every month or so, having to go and look after crops in the field. We asked her if she like to do it. And her response was "I HATE IT" ... But she has to do it...
You have a minor few of the wives who go out occasionally and as soon as it touches a certain time, they have to rush home. Now it leaves me to wonder, how much time the husband and their wives spend together here????? I've never asked this question to a married Japanese couple before. But looking on, most foreigners deduce that, the Japanese wives hardly get any love from their husbands, that is if they want the love anyway.....It seem both are either too busy for each other, or love/sex is not an important element in their marriage. If that is so, why are there so many perverted Japanese men ?? Look at the windows of any convenience store... You will see many Japanese men reading erotic comics..... I don't know!!!
A married Japanese lady told me that she and her husband hasn't had a proper conversation in years... You know why??? The police caught him in the train taking pictures of up skirts!!!! WHAT!!! A student told me that her parents doesn't even speak to each other.... And she hates returning home, because the house is very tense... So if she returns home, she locks up in her room. She said her parents walk past each other like zombies... Not a word..
Another mystery to us foreigners...
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Day 2031 ( Monsters University )
Thursday, October 10, 2013
Went to the YMCA in Yokohama today. they were having some training workshop thing. I got there about 10 mins late. I stayed there for 2 hours and listened to 2 presentations about teaching early childhood kids. The first presentation was ok but the second one was done via online like a skype lesson of sorts. But I was falling asleep. I will be paid 1500 yen for attending this thing. It's better than zero... and I didn't have to do anything but sit down.
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When I got home, I watched Monsters University.
It was ok...If you start watching it, you will want to see it until the end. Interesting story about team work. The concept was also original and interesting. I give it a 7/10.
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Day 2032 ( )
Friday, October 11, 2013
Did 3 classes at my main school today. I didn't stay for soccer because after my last class, the school seemed empty. Plus there was no YMCA today. One female student saw me going to the English room and she said to me ... Dave sensei no jugyo tanoshimi (I am looking forward to your class/Your classes are fun)... I was happy to hear that.
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Day 2033 ( Another Studio Recording )
Saturday, October 12, 2013
The students in my last class at the YMCA on Saturdays are really upsetting me. I don't know what to do with them except play. They really don't want to study.... And if I start playing with them, they get really, uncomfortably noisy.
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Went to the studio today with my friend and recorded a new track for my upcoming album.. lol... It felt good typing that. I am putting some studio recordings together... Not sure if I will try to make an album because I am really poor at advertising myself.
I recorded my song "Baby mi love yuh" ... (Baby I love you) ... It cost 5000 yen. Even if I spent the entire day, the cost would have still been 5000 yen... This is the cheapest studio I've been to so far... and the quality is pretty decent. I recorded it at a Japanese reggae artist's studio name YOYO-C. Its the song at the beginning of this my third video for my VLOG... that I just can't keep up with. Its also the second song I sang at the festival in the video.
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Day 2034 (Another Friend's Party )
Sunday, October 13, 2013
Me and my friend tried to help another friend get a Japanese credit card...But it didn't work out :(
Later on I went to Harajuku in Tokyo at the Jamaican restaurant (Jam Rock) where I usually do my performances. This time I went to a friend's birthday party. I went to her party last year and it was fun. So I went again this year. It was even more fun. There was poetry, dancing and nuff vibes.
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Day 2035 ( The Purge / Epic )
Monday, October 14, 2013
Today was another Japanese holiday but luckily or unluckily I didn't have to go the YMCA. I went to the dentist to get a cleaning. I notice that Japanese people in general will spend close to an hour brushing their teeth but they won't floss nor make regular visits to the dentist. I made it a practice since I was like 16 to visit the dentist at least twice a year.
After the dentist, I watched 2 movies. First I watched "The Purge" A thriller with an interesting concept. Where once every year in the US, for 12 hours, all crimes are allowable, even murder. So if you hate someone, this is the day to go kill them, you won't get arrested. The story was interesting but the ending was really blaaah... I expected more. I give it a 6.5/10
Afterwards, I watched an animated movie name "Epic" not as epic as the name suggests but still fun to watch. Beautiful graphics and nice story with a deep meaning. It is mostly a kids flick but has an adult theme so I don't know. I give it a 6.5/10 just like the purge. Just slightly better than average.
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Day 2036 ( )
Tuesday, October 15, 2013
I didn't even know a typhoon was coming until yesterday. Every time I hear about a typhoon coming to Japan I kinda laugh because they are usually not so strong or don't usually come where I am. However this one was heading straight towards the area where I live now. So I went to my Tuesday school in the rain and did about 10 mins in one class. Otherwise than that I was studying.
I then headed towards the area to do my business English class. It started to get dark and the rain was getting heavier. After 30 mins of waiting, 2 of my intermediate students came in. The same laser dude from last week and another regular student. The laser dude got soaked in the rain and still came to class. After the class, I waited for the advanced students... But by this time, the rain was pouring. Then one student showed up. One that doesn't usually show up. Why did he decide to come today is a mystery....
We spoke for a while then he said, maybe I should stop the class earlier today and head home. Because the rain is going to get worst and trains may either get seriously delayed or stop running all together. So I ended the class at 8. But this was apparently too late. When I got out, some serious rain was pouring down. Luckily a bus came in less than 10 minutes. But I still had some walking to do. at least a combined 17 minutes of walk in the rain. the umbrella is only doing very little. When I got home, quite a bit of the stuff in bag got wet. But the bag is strong so the stuff weren't all that wet. I need to invest in one of those waterproof bag things.
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Day 2037 ( Work After A Big Typhoon )
Wednesday, October 16, 2013
So I still had work after that huge typhoon. But work started at 1:25 instead of 10:50. I still got to work late because the trains were off schedule and running very slow because of a landslide not far from me. While going to work, I saw one of my female students. We were both surprise to see each other. I told her that I don't think she has any class and could go home. But just to make sure, she should check it out. So she did and indeed she pretty much wasted her time. I of course did nothing at work because there were no students. But If I don't go, I won't be paid so why not.
Later on I went to the YMCA and it was on like nothing happened. All my students were there, as noisy as ever.
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