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Saturday, May 23, 2015

Patwa Translator App / Japanese Men share Woes Before and After Marriage / Professions Japanese Women Won't Date



Wow I have some free time this weekend. Lovely! Recently, I've been playing with the thought of going back to Jamaica. Japan is ok and all but can't really see myself living here forever. Don't be surprised if I just suddenly pack my bags and leave. Economically, it would be a crazy choice, because Jamaica's economy is in shambles, has always been as far as I can remember. But who knows, let's see.

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Patwa / Jamaican Dialect Translator app

My friend from High school days, Owayne Brown created an app for android users. This app translates patois (patwa) or Jamaican dialect to whatever language you want and vise versa. Check it out.


    
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=appinventor.ai_owayneb.PatwaTranslator_copy

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These are some bitter Japanese men

Japanese men share a list of common male woes before and after marriage


By Krista Rogers, RocketNews24



Ladies, do you think that life is all fun and games for your male counterparts? As a multitude of men would have you know, that’s certainly not always the case.
The following list chronicling all the expectations and financial burdens placed on Japanese men both before and after marriage has been circulating the web. Of course, not to rule out the many challenges that women also face, myself being a woman, perhaps it would be better to just say that life can be a real drag for everyone.
Whoever compiled the following list is either extremely bitter about life or has experienced some of these hardships firsthand. While reading, remember that cultural, societal, and legal expectations for men and women in Japan are most likely different in at least some ways from those of your own country, and that this list compiles the reflections of only one individual. A few of the items seem a bit questionable in their harshness, but maybe the original author was just having a bad day…
Men prior to marriage
1. The man is expected to confess his love, and eventually propose, to the woman.
2. The man is always expected to pay for the meal.
3. The man is expected to either give presents unconditionally, or to give presents worth three times as much as the presents his girlfriend buys for him.
4. The man is always expected to make calls and send messages to his sweetheart.
5. The man is expected to decide on the ideal location for a date, dinner, etc.
6. The man must always give preference to his girlfriend’s opinions when it comes to dates.
7. Women are allowed to judge men based on their income and appearance, but the opposite does not hold true.
8. The man is expected to go and meet his girlfriend’s parents first.
9. While meeting her parents, he must prostrate himself before them and endure a shower of criticisms from her father.
10. The man’s side of the family is expected to offer up a large sum of money as an engagement gift.
11. The man is expected to pay for the wedding ceremony and reception.
12. The man is expected to pay for the engagement rings and other jewelry.
Men after marriage
1. The husband is expected to pay for the honeymoon.
2. The husband is expected to buy a house with his own money, and continue paying off loans until he dies.
3. If the husband refuses the sexual advances of his wife, he becomes the perpetrator of DV [domestic violence].
4. If the husband’s sexual advances come off too strongly, he becomes the perpetrator of DV.
5. Even if the wife is a housewife, the husband is still responsible for a share of housework and childrearing.
6. Regardless of whether he did or didn’t do the above, the man loses custody of the children and must pay alimony in the event of a divorce.
7. Even if the man has a higher source of income, almost all of his visitation rights are taken and he must pay high child support.
8. Even if the man wins custody of the children, he cannot seek child support from his former wife.
9. Almost all of a husband’s salary is eaten up by extravagant purchases by his wife, school expenses for his children, gas and electricity bills, and food expenses.
10. If the husband does not surrender the full amount of his salary, which he slaved away working for, to his wife, it can be considered DV.
11. The husband must make due with the minuscule allowance he receives from his wife, but the wife is excused from taking secret savings out of his salary [Note: Traditionally, the wife is expected to keep track of all of the finances in a Japanese household].
12. While the husband gobbles down a 380 yen (US $3.16) lunch at a beef bowl fast-food restaurant, his wife enjoys a 3,000 yen ($24.95) lunch at a sit-down restaurant.
13. Husbands spend their entire lives living under the mantra “What’s his is hers, and what’s hers is hers.”
Needless to say, the lists provoked both sympathetic and incredulous reactions from online commenters:
“Eh, what a pain. Guess I’ll stay single for life.”
“Are we talking about husbands, or slaves?”
“We’re like livestock…”
“You’ve left out taking care of your wife’s aging parents.”
“I’m gonna get a sex change.”
“I’d rather not think that all women are like this.”
“There are probably households like that, but mine is different (^-^)”
“How about writing a reasonable contract before marriage?”
Guys, if these lists are anything to go by, shelling out a load of cash might be part of your future if you’re settling down in Japan. Hopefully your future lives are filled with dramatically less bitterness than the author of this list.
http://www.japantoday.com/category/lifestyle/view/japanese-men-share-a-list-of-common-male-woes-before-and-after-marriage?utm_campaign=jt_newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_source=jt_newsletter_2015-04-20_PM

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Survey asks Japanese women what professions they don’t want to date


By Casey Baseel, RocketNews24

Japan is a country that values fiscal responsibility and economic security, and that can influence how people judge a possible romantic partner. For example, we previously looked at a survey in which an overwhelming number of women said they’d rather date a man who’s ugly but rich than a guy who’s handsome and unemployed.
That doesn’t mean that just any old job will do, though. A new poll asked Japanese women what jobs were deal-breakers for a potential boyfriend, and the resulting list includes some surprisingly high-paying professions.
Women’s interest Internet portal My Navi Woman conducted the survey during March of this year, receiving 206 responses from women aged between 22 and 34. Let’s dive right into their dating landmine field with a look at the top six responses.
6. Pilot (7.4% of respondents)
Sorry Bro
Starting off with a surprise, the number six answer was pilot, which in the Japanese job market generally means a commercial airline pilot. Despite the necessary intelligence and skill for the role, plus the accompanying salary and cool factor, maybe some women just don’t like the idea of their guy being gone for days at a time on international routes, gallivanting all over the sky with a crew of perky young flight attendants.
5. Small business owner (7.9%)
A recurring theme of the list is that the respondents seemed to place more of a premium on stability than absolute earning potential. While owning your own business allows you to soar as high as the free market allows, it also means there’s no safety net to catch you if you fall, and the difference between success and failure is sometimes a single-minded devotion to work that leaves no time for romantic dates.
4. Teacher (10.9%)

In general, Japan has a deep respect for educators and learning institutions, but some of the women polled seemed to feel that deference can go to a teacher’s head even once he steps outside the classroom. “A lot of teachers are very logical people,” observed one 33-year-old respondent. “They have too many of their own convictions, and whoever they’re talking to, they sound like they think they’re superior to them.”
“I have the impression that many of them have a narrow-minded way of thinking, and lack common sense,” added another woman.
There’s also the fact that many teachers take their position of molding young people’s minds pretty seriously. “I think the school would always be his priority,” speculated one woman, “and his private life would be secondary.”
2 (tie). Medical practitioner (12.4%)
Wow, seriously? Doctors couldn’t catch a break with this group of women? Once again, a lack of stability seems to have hurt Japan’s healers. Aside from concerns about their prideful personalities, some worried that the busy, irregular hours of medical work would leave them handling all the child-rearing duties should the relationship lead to marriage and kids.
That wasn’t the only family issue, either. Japan is dotted with small, privately owned clinics, which are sometimes passed down from parent to child. The result is families made up of generations of doctors, and more than one woman worried about measuring up to the lofty standards of the potentially elitist parents of a boyfriend from the medical field.
2 (tie). Beautician (12.4%)

The ratio of male to female beauticians in Japan is much more even than it is in many other countries, and being a male hairdressers doesn’t come with the stereotyped stigma that you’re not interested in females. Some of them, however, won’t be interested in you.
Being a successful hairdresser in Japan often requires not only keeping up on the latest trends and radiating a stylish image, but also being outgoing and able to chat enthusiastically with anyone. But while that’s all good for the salon’s bottom line, some women aren’t sure a beautician boyfriend could turn it off when he finishes his shift, and worry that he’d end up being a flakey social butterfly in his private life.
Then there’s the 25-year-old financial worker who’s not sure she wants a guy with such a keen eye for detail. “I think he’d be really outspoken and critical in his opinion of how I look,” she says.
1. Food industry worker (14.4%)

As social norms change, men in Japan are gradually becoming expected to do more housework, meal-preparation included. That doesn’t mean the women in the survey want their boyfriend doing it professionally, though.
At least in the eyes of the survey respondents, restaurant work seems to combine the worst of both worlds, with low pay and irregular time off as a result of having to serve dinner and weekend patrons. “They don’t seem to make much money,” fretted a 24-year-old apparel worker, “and they’re so busy, I don’t think we’d have anything left over for each other, and we’d just fight all the time.”
Still, all else equal, a guy who enjoys fine food and drink is a good thing, right? Well, maybe not so much the second part, it seems. “People who work in the food industry tend to like to drink a lot,” said a 33-year old respondent, “and they’re bad drunks.”

http://www.japantoday.com/category/lifestyle/view/survey-asks-japanese-women-what-professions-they-dont-want-to-date?utm_campaign=jt_newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_source=jt_newsletter_2015-04-26_PM


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